Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Love and Respect

I decided that this year I would do some reviews of the books that I read. (You can find the list of all the books I've read this year toward the bottom of my sidebar. but, um, there's only one there for 2010!) I won't review all of them...just the books that are really great and that I think others would enjoy as well.

Love and Respect, by Emmerson Eggerichs, is one such book.
This book introduces some ideas that seem so obvious, yet so new all at the same time. The main message is that women desire LOVE more than anything. However, men do not. They desire RESPECT more than anything. Sometimes as women, we try to shower them with love. But that's not what they really desire. They desire respect, and when we show them respect, they will more than likely respond by showing us love.

When I first started reading this book, I was a little confused, because in my mind, love and respect go hand in hand, and are almost the same thing. I mean, if you love someone, you respect them. Right?

Wrong. The book showed me that my idea of respect and a man's idea of respect were a little bit different. Men desire to lead the relationship. They want to be acknowledged and thanked for what they do and NOT nagged. When we put them down, it hurts them more than I think we realize because they naturally put up a strong front and don't let us see when they are upset. This book really opened my eyes to a lot of things!

I don't want to give anything more away, but this was a great book! If you haven't read it, you should definitely check it out!

11 comments:

  1. I want to read this book! I'm looking forward to learning from it! thanks for the review!

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  3. Sounds like a great book! I am going to see if my library carries it! Thanks for the review!

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  4. This is such a great book for couples to read! Andrew and I read it when we were dating - and I've reread it since we married. It gives such great insights on how men view the love vs respect in relationships.

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  5. I haven't read the book but I heard those concepts somewhere (can't remember where...) a couple years ago...I had no idea that men desire respect the way women desire love. Craziness.

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  6. I am reading this book too!!! I am almost finished!! :-)

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  7. Thanks for the review I'm always looking for new books. Hubs and I just started doing this daily devotional journal thing and this sounds like a good book that we could work into it.

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  8. This is a great book! I got alot out of it too when I read it last year. It may be time for a re-read though. :-) Sorry I've been slacking on the commenting lately - crazy week!

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